To Err Is Human… Divine

Oftentimes have I heard you speak of one who commits a wrong as though he were not one of you, but a stranger unto you and an intruder upon your world.

But I say that even as the holy and the righteous cannot rise beyond the highest which is in each one of you,

So the wicked and the weak cannot fall lower than the lowest which is in you also.

And as a single leaf turns not yellow but with the silent knowledge of the whole tree,

So the wrong-doer cannot do wrong without the hidden will of you all.

Like a procession you walk together towards your god-self.

You are the way and the wayfarers.

And when one of you falls down he falls for those behind him, a caution against the stumbling stone.

Ay, and he falls for those ahead of him, who though faster and surer of foot, yet removed not the stumbling stone.

The Prophet, Kahlil Gibran 1923

This is a tough subject. In social media, and in social circles, we like to impugn publicly those whom we believe have done others wrong. We have an attachment to the concept of justice and what it entails. However, there is often no compassion in this concept of justice. There is only a single focus on making just what has been “unjust.” This can be a very fragile subject, as intense emotions can be tied to any conversation that presents a different point of view than the one currently held by the majority – whatever majority you’re speaking to.

Compassion can be a complex subject. It requires a patience with yourself and your heart. It requires being willing to shine a light where we tend to forget that no light is shone… within each one of us. Though we often cannot see it for ourselves, having no compassion for others can point to our lack of compassion for ourselves. The simplicity of this statement can be obscured greatly by our determined single focus to make right all wrongs.

Compassion is a warm and loving embrace. And because it includes that word – love – we find it difficult to bring it to those nasty, painful places where we don’t think love can live. Compassion is not fragile. It can live in all kinds of climates, under all sorts of conditions. Compassion can thrive anywhere. We often don’t give it enough credit for its resilience.

We have compassion already. We have it for the people we love. We have it for those we believe need it the most. But for those who we feel do not fit the bill of what we consider moral or ethical, we withhold compassion. But we don’t discriminate. We do that with ourselves too.

If you cannot find compassion for the intensely emotional fights you’re in, you don’t have to start there. You don’t have to begin with your biggest obstacles. Start small. Begin where you can actually envision yourself with compassion. Begin with something small about you.

We all can have greater empathy, consideration, sense of redemption and resilience, and compassion for ourselves. We can apply this compassion to ourselves first, and in the application to ourselves, we can allow for whatever pathways open before us. Who knows what those will be?

Do we have to do any of this? No. We do not. There is nothing that we should do in this life, and nothing that we must do in our lifetimes. This applies to all aspects of life as well. Do you have to eat healthier? Must you eat healthier? You may say, yes. But is it true? Do you have to eat healthier, or is it a possible way of living that would allow for greater possibilities of feeling good in your body, knowing you’re doing something good for yourself and maybe even, longevity? Do you have to stop punishing your spouse for being the way they are? Or would it save your relationship and open a pathway for new communication and a new level of intimacy? You could keep punishing them. The consequence for that continued behavior might be them divorcing you. There are consequences for continued behavior. The same goes for choosing to constantly fight and punish others. That word, others, includes you.

There is always an opportunity to experience compassion. Compassion is born organically of healing wounds.

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.

— Anonymous

We have a great deal of pain when it comes to injustice. We are driven to fight our way to justice. However, there is a law that we deny when we fight something. The law says that wherever you put your focus and attention, that place, thing or how you view someone, a place or a thing grows. When you fight something, you keep your focus and your attention both on the fight and what you are fighting. Put simply, you are focused on what you don’t want. That is the opposite of the intention of the fight, especially when the fight is intended to eliminate the object being fought.

What we resist, persists.

You may not make peace with the greatest of your fights for injustice, or otherwise. You don’t have to. Life is a journey of thousands of steps. Choose what your steps will be.

But know that you can find your way to compassion and release of fights and fighting. You can make peace with that which has threatened you. When you find release (and relief), what you’ve made peace with no longer threatens you.

There is peace. It is here. Peace was here all along, waiting to be claimed. By you.

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Your World. Your Creation.

The world we live in is not all around us. Though if we look, we may think we see it surely. I mean isn’t the world, the world?

I invite you to consider the world we live in is not the one we see all around us.

The world we live in is not the planet Earth we all cohabitate upon. Though we may be sure of terra firma just as sure as it lies beneath our feet.

The world we each live in is the world that lives between our ears.

Not that it physically resides there, between our ears. That’s just the place where we most often refer to its existence. That’s where we most often think our mind is, located where our brain is — which the two are not one in the same, by the way, but most definitely influence each other’s existence.

The world we live in lives in our perceptions. Our points of view carved out and sculpted by our experiences, the things we’ve been told, the messages we hear from music and media and the people, places and things we consider authorities in the… well, in the world around us.

Our mind is the world we all live in, no matter how much you and I think we live out on the globe we reside on.

And right there is the opportunity to create our worlds moment by moment.

Each of our worlds exist of nothing but thought, which is the same thing as perception.

So how is our world not completely malleable, defined by each moment we live, and never carved in stone? Of course it is. Flexible, able to be sculpted in an instant, and renewable.

It’s your mind. It’s your world. It is yours to create.

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Is Your Success Making You Miserable?

Our happiness is our success.

Monique McIntyre, Founder of the (r)evolution of bliss

Success. Happiness.

Two things we get crazy about.

Money.

Something we get really crazy about.

We are driven by our ideas about success, happiness and money. Driven to succeed. Driven to have money. Driven to be happy. Often, at all costs.

We have conflicting definitions of success. We know, in our hearts, that success is not what we have, but who we are, and yet we are constantly defining ourselves and our success by what we have in material possessions, or a career, or a job, or in popularity on our social media accounts, or in trinkets, or in educational degrees, or in IQ points, or in friends, or even in the number of contacts we have in our smartphones. No matter what our hearts say, we more often than not find ourselves “rolling with” what society deems as success.

Just think about it…

Think of who in your personal circle is the person you consider to be most successful. Who are they? Actually say their name out loud.

This person should be the person you immediately think of as successful, the one your brain makes the most immediate connection to; not someone you have to work at equating them with success.

Now, think about how successful this person is. Think about all of the things you can see make up their success. What are those? If you really want to see your relationship to success clearly, write these things down.

Consider that many of the things they have are many of the reasons you relate to them as successful. Just consider it fully. It doesn’t have to be true. I’m not convincing you of anything here. Just inviting you to participate.

Yes, there absolutely may be attributes to this person’s character that appeal to you as factors for their success. However, I challenge you to look for someone in your personal circle that has equal to those attributes but not the same outer trappings and see if you believe them to be as successful, or even inhabiting the same realm. What I’m saying is that if the person were homeless, but a really incredible and self-aware person, would you still qualify them as successful?

(Some of you just said inside your heads, Well, if they were homeless, then they wouldn’t be really self-aware. I invite you to look deeper at that equation / connection in your thinking.)

If we are to find true happiness within ourselves, peace in our desire to be fully ourselves, then we can truly redefine success for ourselves. If we cease being driven by our ideas of success, then our success can be an emanation of our contentment with us as we are; and with life as it is. There is ease in that understanding, and there can be a new opening for a new way of life, and a new definition of success for all of us. Acceptance is key.

Acceptance, however, does not preclude innovation. Acceptance does not preclude wanting more. And it definitely does not preclude improvement. Acceptance is wholly inclusive, not exclusive. So this is not about rebuking money or anything it can buy, or a lifestyle that embraces this. This is not about poverty as nobility. This is not about rebuffing those that are driven by success either, or the popular definition of The American Dream. I will say it again… Acceptance is key.

When we’re no longer driven by our “should’s” and “must do’s,” something else in life becomes possible. When we’re no longer driven by our visions of what we think life is supposed to look like, then we can be happy with just being – really being, with no help from anything outside of us. There is ease in being. There is abundance in ease. There is a new definition of success that can be discerned from both.

What would it be to be truly content, feeling truly successful for just being you? There would be nothing to do… and everything to express.

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Do You Deeply Honor Yourself? 10 Ways To Deepen Your Self-Care

We all have different definitions of self-care, and these definitions evolve as we grow, and often, as we age. In our 20’s, self-care for you might have a very different meaning from when you’re in your 40’s, just as in your 40’s a different meaning to your 70’s. This post is meant to be a guideline by which you can determine if your definition(s) of self-care are about a deep regard of self; and, if not, how to deepen your rituals of caring for yourself and for your well-being.

Self-Care As A Divine Responsibility

While going to the spa is amazing!… fun, relaxing and luxurious (you don’t have to ask me twice), there is self-care that is more intrinsic to one’s being. This self-care is sacred and cuts to the heart of what it is to be truly good to yourself; that cuts to the heart of what it is to be connected to yourself in a way that harmonizes your actions and brings an integrity of being to you.


10 Things to Consider as You Deepen Your Self-Care

Do you find ways to manage your stress?    There are many ways to take on stress, and getting a massage can feel incredible. However, a spa visit is not always an effective way to handle stress as stress does not only live in your muscles. Stress has its roots in your nervous system. And while a massage can be fun, you can’t massage stress from your nerves. So you must find deeper ways of reconnecting to your Parasympathetic nervous system, the system in your body responsible for the states of Rest & Digest.

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The states of Rest & Digest are highly important to the optimal functioning of your body. When your Sympathetic nervous system is constantly in action preparing you for Fight or Flight, then you don’t have what your body needs to restore itself. Imagine if you were fighting a war constantly without eating and without sleeping, you body would fail from deprivation. The war would no longer be waged, because your body would give out. In your everyday life, your brain identifies danger and responds to it. It can be actual physical danger, but more often than not it’s the more sinister dangers of not getting that report in on time; of upsetting your boss, those in management or the employee union; of upsetting your already on-edge wife; of not paying that mortgage bill in time that trigger the brain into Fight or Flight response.

Whatever your circumstances, your brain is trying to keep you safe from these eminent (and most sinister – lightness is necessary here) dangers. So if you a) are not sleeping well, b) have a busy mind, c) find yourself in different states of anxiety or depression, and/or d) have physical ailments that keep you from functioning optimally (or fully) in your daily life, look deeper into what can relieve your stress because your body’s restoration depends on it. Meditation and mindfulness are great possibilities, but there are a multitude of modalities and ways to relieve stress. Find ones that suit you.

Do you honor your body?   Do you take the proper time with your food to get the proper nutrition – even on the go? Do you get enough to eat? Or are you an overeater to numb yourself to bad feelings? Do you fog eat? Are you aware of what’s in your food? Do you eat mindfully? Do you honor your food as you eat with a prayer or a thought of appreciation? Do you think negative thoughts about food like “I really shouldn’t be eating this” or “I shouldn’t be eating this much?” Do you know if your digestive system is working properly?

If you don’t have answers for these questions. Then seek them from yourself or a health professional. Your body is a temple. If you don’t think so, consider how that kind of sacred regard for the body that is the only tool you cannot do this life without could transform your health.

Do you check in on your physical well-being on a regular basis?     Or just hope for the best? Or worse, do you say you don’t have the time to go to the doctor or get checkups? Not having enough time to check in on your own physical health is indicative of a denial of what’s important to your own well-being.

You don’t have to identify with Western medicine or Eastern healing methods. You can participate in both or either. However, it is important to tune into your body and get whatever it needs to remain healthy. Self-imposed limits are just self-imposed limits. They are an opening for a new perspective, for insight, for a chance to change your behavior and begin self-care. Use this eye-opening moment as a pathway to your own well-being. If you haven’t seen a doctor in years and you ascribe to Western medicine, go see one now. It’s that simple.

Do you think well-being is only about your physical body?    Well-being is not just about your physical body. It is about your whole being. Being well relates to your mind, your body and your spirit. Are you well? Are you concerned that you may not be? Or are you not concerned, but have an inkling you should be?

Do you just hope for the best? Or do you not think about it at all because… “you’re not sick, crazy, or anything else I might be implying!”

Mental illness has no prominent indicators. You have a high temperature with the Flu. Your nose is running with a cold. You have a rash and irritated skin with Eczema. What do you have with mental illness? Not often a lot. Unless you pay close attention to yourself.

Everyone can use a place to share their authentic fears, their confidences, their ups & downs, their anxieties, their safe harbors and the breaches of those safe harbors. While sharing all of this with someone you are familiar with can lead to a new level of intimacy, it can also subject you to their opinions and judgments and their personal preferences – they’re human.

A therapist, or other mental health professional, however has expertise to offer objectively from years of education. Have you ever thought of seeing a therapist? If you have but you’re afraid someone you know will find out and judge you, there are apps for that. There are a number of celebrities who are being outspoken about their mental health challenges. There are multiple resources, literally at your fingertips.

If you take the deep dive and go for an in-person experience, you certainly don’t have to settle for the first therapist you visit. Absolutely, find a place where you feel safe and make sure you vibe with the person you’re working with. And if the one-on-one aspect doesn’t work for you, you can also try group sessions where the focus is not solely on you.

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For those of you that think “I don’t want to wallow in the bad things that happened to me” or “I don’t want to focus on the past.” Therapy is personal and unique. If you don’t want yours to be about that, it absolutely does not have to be. Therapy is not about wallowing, but about creating a safe space where you can allow those things you’ve suppressed so that there may be release of pain, and ultimately, the resolution of peace.

Every one of us has something that bothers us. All of us have learned well how to suppress, avoid or ignore what bother us, so much so that we have numbed ourselves in the process. Once you are numb, of course nothing bothers you anymore. But living that way can undermine both your well-being and your success in life. Being vulnerable is your greatest strength. Resilience is your birthright. Choose someone to talk to who honors you and what you have to speak about.

A healthy mind leads a healthy life.

Do you speak your truth?   And I don’t mean in a Stand Up For Yourself Or Lay Down And Die-kind of way. Although, if that’s important to you, it could be instrumental in your self-care, but I’m talking about on an everyday basis. Do you speak your truth in business dealings? Do you say what you know needs to be said to your employees, to your boss, or to your team? Do you bite your lip when around a certain friend or work colleague? Do you edit yourself to mute when around your mother? Your father? Your brother? Your sister? Swallowing your words, or keeping them to yourself, can be detrimental to your well-being.

Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind – even if your voice shakes.

Maggie Kuhn

Maggie Kuhn was may have been speaking of strangers but this goes for family and friends as well. It is important to find a way to say what is there for you to say – gently or fiercely. And most importantly, you do not have to act out on others to be truthful. You have a point of view. Your thoughts are valid. We all have areas where we go radio silent – or on the opposite side of the coin, we go on hyper-blast – because we don’t feel safe to say what we feel.

For some of us, communication can be threatening. But it is important to remember, it does not have to be “either” their opinions, “or” yours. Both perspectives can exist at once. All can coincide together. And since they can coexist together, there is room for everyone. Frankly, if you think about it, our opinions already exist together – theirs in their minds, and ours in our minds. Peace can come from knowing that if this is so, then so can our opinions exist at once in a conversation, or in a relationship.

Do you think of yourself first in relationships?    Yes, I know. This may sound odd and even counter-intuitive given a relationship is an opportunity to give yourself over to another, to put another ahead of yourself. Except… that’s not necessarily so. A relationship is an opportunity to be generous with another human being. But generosity, just like charity, begins at home.

We have evolved our understanding of ourselves and our responsibility to be true to ourselves, so now is the time to continue evolving our understanding of relationships. A relationship is the space in which you can begin to realize that you are important. When you highly regard your own importance, it’s quite natural for others to follow suit. When you regard yourself highly, you are now fully charged (filled up and ready to go) to give of yourself to another.

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Imagine that. Two whole people discovering who they are becoming and being interested in their own well-being first. This contributes to them both being able to bring their whole selves to one whole and healthy relationship. Then you can be more peacefully united, because you’re not using your relationship to make up for what you believe you lack, or don’t do well.  Then we are more wholly ourselves so that we may be more truly ourselves together. The greatest opportunity for intimacy lies in this equation:

whole + whole = whole and healthy

Do you hold onto grudges and resentments? Yes, examining the way you respond to resentment is about self-care – a deep, abiding self-care. Get ready… we’re jumping in.

Not forgiving someone is like eating poison and expecting someone else to die.

Anonymous

(Yes, we did…) We hear a lot about forgiveness, so much so it can begin to sound like a formula. To not tip the scales on cliche, I’ll simply say this. When you choose not to forgive, or to continue resenting someone or something, you are amassing negative emotion within your body. You may not be conscious of this. Most of us are not. This act, in and of itself, can expose your body to ailments that are physical responses to the emotional accumulation and stagnation. In other words, you harbor resentment, your body will have a physical response to it.

Being emotional, in many societies around the world, is seen as being tumultuous, or unnecessary. However, being emotional is healthy. Not allowing your emotions to be expressed and suppressing them instead is a sure way to shut your self down, and then shut your health down. And not allowing yourself to fully express and be healed through that full expression is a sure way to disconnect from yourself and the innate health (also known as resilience) that resides within us all. How that disconnection will manifest as illness or disease depends on how long you allow it to continue, and at what intensity the resentment and negativity within you lives. Expressing your emotions – which, by the way, is definitely not the same as acting them out on others – makes forgiveness an easier prospect and a more definite resolution.

Do you confront what you know is within you?    It’s not important how long it takes you to confront something that you know is requiring you to grow in your life. Do it all in your own time – however long that is. What does matter however is if you are actually paying attention and being willing to give yourself over to the challenge of your own growth, to your own transformation. If you are not, and instead you are giving all your attention to others and the quality of their lives, or just plain hiding out from your own, then you’re not about caring for yourself.

If your actions right now are inconsistent with caring for your self, then this is a great big opportunity for you to take a look at this area of your life. Take on the challenges that will grow you. The accomplishment of taking care of yourself will far outweigh the sour taste you may have for introspection.

Do you serve others before you take care of yourself?

Fact: You being sick doesn’t help others get well. You being poor doesn’t help anyone to be more prosperous. You being strong, healthy, living in abundance is very, very helpful to the collective. So please, be well, be radiant, be rich, be famous, be super-human — be whatever feels good. Do NOT go hungry or dim your light to ‘be of service to the world.’

— #truthbomb, Danielle LaPorte

Service is a wonderful thing. Playing a big game and putting yourself on the line for something greater than yourself is a hugely transformative experience. However, putting others’ needs before your own constantly, and before dealing with your self-care, is detrimental to your own well-being.

As a precedent, it can be damaging to take into account the preferences of others before your own. What if their preferences don’t honor who you are? What if giving of yourself leaves you with nothing at the end of the day? It could have begun differently, leaving you inspired and impassioned… but now no longer. No energy. No fulfillment. No zest. Lackluster. Where will you fill up? Or do you just keep going whether you’re taken care of or not?

This kind of all-or-nothing thinking (all for them, and nothing for you) can lead to depletion and illness. Some of us learn to forsake ourselves for the good of the whole. Consider that is a lie. There is no good of the whole if the good of one is overlooked. Overlooking yourself makes your altruism not altruism at all – because it doesn’t include you. Service is best fulfilled once you are. Bringing your joy to serving others is far more generous than bringing a shadow of yourself to it.

Do you give yourself what you want?

Desire is the onward impulse of the ever-evolving soul.
— Charles Fillmore

Desire can be a contentious subject for human beings. For some of us, it’s a preposterous thing to think you can have everything you want. Arrogant. Self-serving. For some of us, it’s a preposterous thing to think you cannot have everything you want. Which camp are you in?

Humility does not equal poverty. Poverty is not nobility. If you make yourself wrong for wanting, you’ve made yourself wrong for the very thing that is the impulse of who you are. Experiment with giving yourself something you want that you’re not sure you should have. Remember to observe all your thoughts that may say, “This is wrong. You shouldn’t do that. This is what gets people in trouble.” Notice and observe yourself when your thoughts make you wrong for wanting and for fulfilling your desire. Start small.

If you have negative feelings around your desire, you may want to heal what is underneath that negativity. Negative feelings are not islands, they are always connected to much deeper issues of disconnection. Healing will bring you peace and a possible new outlook that will surprise you.

Divine responsibility is not a term meant to overwhelm you, but it is meant to bring a precious regard to something you may be taking for granted:

You.

You are precious. Spas are nice, wonderful in fact, but remember there is more to your own care than the “bells and whistles” of the luxe life. Self-care is a grounded everyday practice that can help you honor yourself and bring integrity to who you are and how you live your life.

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The Law of Attraction Laid Bare

Most find fault with the Law of Attraction because they find fault with themselves.
Let me explain that

All of us live in the human condition, and that condition calls for a bevy of emotions, moods and attitudes – some of which are blame, fault, shame and guilt. Those four, in particular, make us feel that it is necessary for someone to blame and when we don’t want to feel shame or guilt, we prefer someone else to be at fault. In the end, we still end up feeling shame and guilt anyway. That is the human condition. No denying it.

When we live in a world where blame, fault, shame and guilt are prevalent in all of our experiences as human beings, then it follows that we would find fault and want to blame a Law that says, We attract everything that comes into our lives.

None of this is meant to be a punishment. However, in the world of blame, fault, shame and guilt, there is no system other than reward/punishment. We have to actually work to transcend that paradigm of reward & punishment. It is everywhere. It is insidious. Most of us cannot live in a world without those two things so integral to our society and to our lives. Without reward and/or punishment, how will we know our value? How will we know how good we are? How bad we are? How will we mete out praise to ourselves and others? How will we live in a world without reward & punishment?

Levity becomes vitally necessary. We’ve got to give up that ‘it’s the end of the world.’ We’ve got to find a way to bring lightness to the burden. We’ve got to learn how to ease up on the heaviness we bring to the meaning of our lives often. When we can bring levity to blame, fault, shame and guilt, then we have far more facility with the Law of Attraction and it becomes viable, powerful and even, optimal.

Let’s get straight about this, the Laws of the Universe are immutable. They cannot be unmade because they don’t suit our purposes. Universal Law exists outside of what human beings can control. Just like we can’t stop the Earth from rotating around the sun, or keeping its particular distance from the other planets. We can’t stop the Earth from being round by saying it’s flat. There is a lot that we have no control over in this life – it amounts to most everything.

But as always, it is my suggestion to take what resonates with you and leave what does not, and this article is no different.

The Law of Attraction is a neutral force. It is not out to harm you. No reward or punishment here. There is both neutrality and simplicity to the Laws of the Universe.

So be easy with yourself around the Law of Attraction. Be easy with yourself in all arenas. The Law of Attraction can help bring you peace of mind. There is a solution to all and it is always already at your fingertips. The only thing you must do is stop thinking at the level of the problem, and begin easing your way into the next paradigm – the level of the solution.

You have everything you need. The Universe has your back, and it is here to give you all that you desire. All. Not some. Be well.

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