This is the 2nd segment of a 3-part series.
The topic here? Discovering the gifts our emotions have to give to us. In the first part of this series, we looked at the effect emotions can have on our health. Now we’ll look at how emotions are a part of our inner guidance and how integral they are to our authenticity and our power as human beings.
Our emotions are powerful tools that few of us recognize as what they are. We often think of being emotional as being weak. This is a common misconception among us. However, we have begun to talk about and explore our emotional intelligence. So, more and more we are discovering the power emotions wield in the productivity of our everyday lives. While we still hold our emotions distant and separate from ourselves, like novelties to be marveled at, we are beginning to recognize their integral part of our personal power and how our power is elevated by our emotional intelligcence.
Our greatest sense of the flow of life is our recognition of being in sync with that flow. Athletes call it, “being in the zone.” Our emotions have everything to do with that sense we have, because our ability to simply be and let go of all else – being in the flow, in the zone, or in sync, begins with our emotions.
Now, we may rationalize our lives with logic and deduce with reason. We may think and figure all manner of things out with our minds. But we’ve always distinctly known that our “heart” plays an important role in how we live life and the quality of our experience. When it comes to our own evolution and our mastery of being who we are and becoming who we want to be, our emotions play the greatest part.
Our emotions are a solid foundation upon which we can build a fluid relationship with this world and the people around us. Our emotions allow us to build trust and faith in an uncertain future that is always coming toward us. We can use both our brains – the science of our physical-ness – and our emotions – the intuitive side of our being-ness – for our greatest good. The two are not mutually exclusive of each other. We don’t have to be limited to an “either/or” assessment of what we’ve been given with this phenomenal machine called a brain and the fluidity of our emotions as we experience them.
A side note here… In a number of Western societies (and frankly, other places), we define being emotional as “weakness.” But wait… We also have a Western world that defines being passionate as “strength.” Merriam-Webster defines both words “emotional” and “passionate” using the word “emotion.” Yet, these two words and the values and meanings placed upon them are at opposing ends of the spectrum. How is that? Meaning much?
I believe in taking the meaning that empowers you. After all, meanings change from era to era depending on how a society evolves. We’ve always added the meaning. That is what it is to be human. That is our human condition.
So what would it be to simply regard our emotions as emotions and nothing more? What would it be to drop all the meanings we’ve added and just deal with the thing without all the added bells and whistles on top?
(“Feelings, nothing more than feelings…”)
And emotions are, for the majority of us, feelings / body sensations that either appeal to us and make us feel good, or make us feel bad and we want to resist. But to be crystal clear, emotions cause body sensations. They are not the body sensations themselves. They are also not moods or attitudes. Emotions can be the arbiter of moods and attitudes. Emotion follows thought, and thoughts, as we all know, are products of the mind.
So here’s the skinny… We can use emotions or feelings, and the body sensations they cause in us, as a kind of barometer for our lives. If you look at your life carefully, you can begin to see that all of your thoughts cause your emotions. And your emotions have caused you to take action, even if the action is as small as winking your eye. We all know in the next link of this chain is that actions produce results, or outcomes, in our visible, physical world – even if that outcome is as intangible as a change of mood in the person you’re talking to.
Our nature as human beings is joy. Our nature is bliss. We often look to babies for empirical evidence of this, as it is most natural for babies to laugh, smile, coo or be loving – which we perceive, rightfully so, as an expression of joy. We will revel in the gurgle of a baby, the laughter of a small child, the innocent non-sensical talk of a child, but when it comes to rationalizing our own feelings we often forget we were once that blissful. What we end up characterizing that bliss with is ignorance – being unaware of all that’s playing out around us. We figure once we grow up, we should know everything going on around us, and therefore we no longer have time to be blissful like this. Maybe that’s the whole point of having children – to be reminded again and again.
Consider though that if who you truly were was that bliss, that if you weren’t being joyful – if instead you were angry, or frustrated, or upset – you’d be stepping away from who you truly were. And if your bliss was a barometer of your authenticity, that maybe the other feelings, negative or indifferent, would be a measure of how far you had stepped away from yourself.
What if that were the case? What would be your purpose then in life? How would your outlook change? What would be important in that life? What meanings would fall away, and what meanings would replace them?
I mean think about it… When we are in negative emotions, we have a tendency to lose our way. We can get lost in the bad feelings and forget in what direction we were headed before we were “taken over” by our negative emotions. And if emotion follows thought, then we can deduce (see that, see that? Using the mind there. Threw that in for ya’…) there were thoughts that preceded that emotional whirlpool. And if we get into a momentum that we don’t stop, or can’t stop, there comes a moment where we find ourselves giving up. Maybe we can’t pull ourselves out of it and call it a funk. Thoughts like “it’s not working out,” or “it’s not worth it” can follow and we can find ourselves in a morass of thought and emotion. (It’s called depression in some circles.) It doesn’t have to go there and it certainly doesn’t happen every time, but it can.
Consider then that our positive emotions are at one end of the barometer letting us know that we are being true to who we are. And our negative emotions are at the other end indicating a divide that’s been created through thought, and that we are now in opposition to ourselves. Let’s insert some levity… maybe it’s like on Star Trek… “There’s been a breech in the system. Alert! Alert!” And you can translate that into your Inner Self letting you know, You can come back to you now.
As with a baby, if it is sad, frustrated, pained, or angry, it’s never that way for long as the baby ultimately returns, without fail, to its natural state of joy. So too can we. Here’s new meaning to the phrase, “be supple, flexible and childlike.” Remember, you have it all within you from the very beginning. There is always a way to come back to your innate joy, to your innate self, to your innate well-being. Use your emotional barometer to register where you are, then consider how to bring yourself back. Is this productive? Absolutely. Is it easy for everyone? No, not at first. Can it be done? Always. Does it take practice? Like a mamma-jamma. (Pronounced maamma-jaamma.)
Practice is what makes this process of using our emotions as a guidance system a fail-safe way of navigating our joy… and our depression. Look. Life gets real. We have a vast range of emotions. Some of us will use every last one of them before we’re done with this life, or at least, feel like we have. And some of us like to stay in a more moderate range, and keep to a minimum that’s comfortable. We’ve got choice in the matter, even when we feel like that’s a big fat lie. And more specifically, one choice is not better or worse. It’s just a choice – yours, mine, theirs, hers, his.
We can find our way to being in our joy on a more constant basis. We can find our way to ease rather than the harshness we’ve known in the past. It may take some effort. It may take a lot of effort. It may take reaching out for help that makes us feel embarrassed or humiliated. It may take… a mountain to be moved. And even in this journey, there is our emotional barometer to tell us if we’re being true to what we’re really capable of, or… lapsing into a harsh judgment of ourselves and what we think we’re not capable of.
Practice in using our emotional barometer brings a depth of knowing that not even understanding can tap. So begin to explore your emotions. Begin with a practice of simply noticing them. Simply noticing and observing yourself will create an awareness of yourself as you may have never experienced before. As you observe how your emotions swell and ebb, you can begin to notice that they never last for long. Observation allows you to remain neutral. Remaining neutral allows your emotions to have their life, but not have you.
Yes, emotions can seem like they run you, but they don’t. You run them. (Beyoncé just sang, “Who runs the world?”) When your emotions seem to last forever, it is because you are suppressing, avoiding, ignoring, trying to get rid of, or just plain resisting them. Observing them from a neutral standpoint allows you to begin to see that they will run their course and dissipate. Once you begin to see this, you can begin to evolve your practice and practice allowing your emotions to have their moment, and not you. Don’t think it’s a practice you’ll undertake like an online educational course and someday it’ll get done and you’ll graduate, or get a certificate. This is for a lifetime, baby.
And it’s well worth it. ‘Cause your bliss and its sustenance are worth it all, baby.
You are worth it, and you are worth the conscious rewards you will reap as you begin to see the folly of our human condition, and begin to transcend the ardor of it.
You are worth it, and the wonder with which you will begin to see all of what we do when we think we are being run by emotions, because you will know that the emotion is not the one in charge.
You are worth it, as you begin to enjoy life at a depth that now astounds you.
All of this as you allow your emotions to be your guide. As you allow your heart to be your guide. As you allow your inner and highest self to be your guide. As you allow your best self to continually unfold with effortlessness and ease.
Wow! You are really cool.
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