Coaching Tidbits: Acceptance – How To

Coaching Tidbits is a series of posts where I share with you freely from my Bliss Coaching expertise. These tidbits are insights I have gleaned from coaching hundreds of people and are meant to be used as suggestions, not to be taken as truth. They are just possible ways of viewing life. and like a new set of glasses, adjusted for clarity, might give you a more constructive way to view what is right in front of you. Disclaimer: This post is for general educational and informational purposes only, and is not meant to be a substitute for the advice or counsel of a health professional. If you have specific questions about a health matter, you should consult a doctor or other health professional. *Updated as of July 10, 2021 — previously titled Life Coaching Series*


Acceptance is a subject fraught with misunderstanding and frustration. Let’s be real about it. Many of us would like to know what the really big deal is about Acceptance.

Well, let me tell ya’. It is a really big deal. Acceptance can bring you a serenity like you’ve not known in your life before. No matter how you’ve experienced peace of mind before, the experience of serenity will continue to blow your mind as it deepens in your experience of life.

So how do you get there? How do you truly accept?

Do you just say, “I accept this?” And it’s a done deal? You’ve accepted it?

Well, that can happen, and does happen. However, some of us live in the illusion that it is happening all the time. We say it, and it is so. Except… we still feel poopy about it. Now, we’re just pushing down the “poopy” feelings, or even better, ACTING like we DON’T feel poopy. We say it, and it is so. Right?

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Not. Quite.

I know a lot of the current motivation and self-development mantras out there speak highly of Declarations. Declare it and it will move. Well, not always so. I’ll show you why. Have you ever declared something and felt like a total fraud, either while making the declaration or just afterward? That’s why. Quick capture, eh?

Declarations are great, and I’m not telling you to get rid of them. You do what works best for you. However, the truth of it is – and I’ve done a lot of experimentation, exploration both with clients and in my own life on this matter – is that words are not the exalting factor in creation. Feelings are.

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Look, let’s just say we need some new strategies. For the poopy feelings, mind you.

Yes. Your feelings are the indicators you want to follow here. Yes, yes, I know. Not all of us trust our feelings. But frankly, if you’re going to find true acceptance, you’ve got to feel your way into it – that means being willing and trusting that you can… feel, that is… and that you can trust your feeling.

Well, wait a minute though. You could… accept that you don’t trust your feelings. (If you don’t, that is.) You could accept that feelings are not trustworthy in your world. You could accept that you hate the idea of trusting your feelings altogether. You could accept that you don’t trust me for even mentioning the idea of trusting your feelings. (Don’t worry. I don’t take it personally. And I still love you.)

For those of you, who trust your feelings, you could accept what you don’t trust about yourself… like that time you trusted your ex. Accept that you don’t trust people that do things like your ex did.

See, acceptance begins with believing that you are okay. Just as you are.

So maybe if you’re not okay with the word “accept,” maybe you can just be with that “it’s okay” that these things are like they are; and that you are like you are.

But don’t just say it to yourself. Remember, declarations aren’t the complete package. GET that you really feel that way about it.

What? You’ve got a weird feeling inside? Okay. Take a look at it. You don’t like that you’re feeling that way, huh? Okay. Accept that. (Or… find your ability to believe that “it’s okay” that you feel that way. It’s not okay? Okay, find your way to “it’s okay that it’s not okay”… There’s always a way in.)

Don’t get mired in the bad feelings. Just name them. What are they about? What are they saying to you?

Can you make that okay? Or, even, can you make it okay that it’s not okay?

You can do this. There’s nothing wrong here. What you are making okay is that you are human and that you’re in the midst of the human condition. Nothing more.

If it’s not okay with you that you’re human, you’ve got no shot at acceptance. Ummm, try this. Accept that it’s not okay with you that you’re human (if this resonates). Make it okay that you can’t stand this thing I keep calling “the human condition.”

Yes. See. We always have a starting point. There is always something you can begin with. Until you can get to the feeling of… Relief.

When you really do accept something the way it is and not the way you want it to be, there is a feeling that comes over you. It’s a feeling of relief.

No, the serenity is not the Big Reveal yet. But… If you follow the feeling of relief, it will lead you to a restoration of hope. And if you allow yourself some time, and, some more acceptance, serenity will become the Big Reveal in time. (Look, even Dorothy had to follow the Yellow Brick Road. Have a little patience with yourself.)

If you can’t find something that you can accept, to make your way to acceptance of something you really want to accept, you won’t find relief.

Relief is part and parcel of Acceptance. It is what will guide you to greater and greater acceptance of what is, and a greater ability to be with your own feelings about anything.

You don’t have to be perfect. You never have.

You don’t have to begin anywhere in particular. You can begin exactly where you are.

Acceptance is about knowing that nothing is the “end of the world.” Acceptance is about beginning to get that you are okay — however you are.

And as your relief grows, your stress level comes down. Your health flourishes in ways it has not (or in ways it used to when you were 4 years old). Your ability to hope returns, or bounds in ways you’ve not yet experienced.

Accept where you are and you will be on a path of acceptance to all you desire to bring acceptance.

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Published by MoniqueM

As a fierce seeker of bliss, I continue to discover grace and splendor where they are least found. Bliss is a possibility for all of us. I'm here to guide anyone who seeks more of their own bliss.

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